its been awhile...i know lol...anyways...i've been going tru alot of mess in my life that i jus needed to process...and while i'm still doing so, i believe a blog was in order...who cares if its not. Lets look at this familiar issue for some, heard of by others, experienced often by many...what happens when a relationship has ended? what do we do from now on? where do we go? who else is affected besides the obvious 2 parties involved?....fleck that...relationships can go sour, parties can cheat, and well as some would call it...."irreconcilable differences"...thats a divorce terminology tho, not for what I'm going for...thats more for those people, IN MY OPINION, that are too afraid to work on something that maybe worth it and because they are scared that they may have to take responsibility for their actions they run away...what ever tho, thats them, what i'm getting at is this...after a relationship mutual friends are also affected, an more so cus they are now at the cross roads where they will have to try their best to be neutral or eventually take sides, where from then on they may no longer be mutual friends...sucks when people fleck up something good, i guess they jus get bored with how calm, mellow, and simple a relationship maybe....an well some decide to become cheaters, or jus leave out of sheer boredom..all these factors add up to a pot of ingredients for a disaster of a meal....friends are affected...family members also cuz they now have to "ignore" the other party that they're not related to as well...this world can become so complex its no longer fun to live in, an well from my experience its what happened to me...my trust was shattered in an individual and whilst i was trying to put back those pieces of the mirror of trust...i was left in the dust for someone who had a brand new mirror...twice...another group to look at when a relationship ends , providing its WASN'T mutual, is the party that was left by the other half in the relationship....why would a former lover want to be friends? to torture the other person an show them that they cud also be happy with someone else? isnt it true that if u loved something/one set them free, if its truly yours it'll come back to u..but what if....WHAT IF...love wasn't in the 1st place? that means that when the dust clears...all thats left are...sad mutual friends who are in for a struggle, family trying to comfort the broken hearted, family celebrating with the one who is supposedly "happier" now...and well....one broken heart...this broken heart chose to blog about this but being honest, i dont think it will ever repair it self fully for anyone else...but thats just for now....I hope....its funny how sooooooo many people wanna offer advice in these situations when all you've asked them was to simply listen...when people give advice, especially to the sensitive ones, they tend to be influenced easily into making DUMB decisions, most of the time , WRONG in their choices....to me...a lot of women know what they want and feel they absolutely have to get it....but they rarely ever know what they need and whats good for them....when the dust settles....all prior bad decisions soon become clear...as well as their consequences....and a few theories seem to emerge in my mind...some are...A.W.B....i.e. all women bad...funny as it is...i think this maybe be right....like the reverse of the catch-phrase of the law...where all women are bad until proven innocent...i wish those who get into future relationships dont make those kinds of mistakes again...i pray for them to guard your hearts but dont be afraid to open up sometimes and give them a peak of your heart...metaphorically speaking....LOL...anyways whilst i head to bed i wanna leave u with some questions...if u had a failed relationship,why be judgmental of those that aren't involved?...
well another question is.....is it still worth fighting for? let logic take over and things will be easier...is this person you love really worth fighting for? can you see said person in your future?
now the old saying goes..."its better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all"...how ever its phrased, it means the experience of loving someone trumps losing them....to those that hate me...i'm glad that you all fuel me...to all my friends you all are the best...help you see the way out of impossible situations....over all live you life, not around anyone...keep in mind a normal relationship is NOT a marriage, so there are no divorces nor are they any collateral damage...only friends and family...so here's a toast to long lasting relationships..may they last even longer.....an may every one...not end up lonely...God Bless...happiness to all i wish...:)
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